Our Special Star

To our special
Star in the sky.
With a strong string
That holds the tie.

Of all the love
That we hold dear.
To keep you close
And keep you near.

For when our tears
Fill up our eyes.
We now look up
Into the sky.
To see our bright
Shining star.
To let us know
That you’re not far.

Feeling the love
From your warm light.
It’s the brightest one
We see at night.

So when our days
And nights are tough.
We’ll always remember
To just look up.

To our special
Star in the sky.
Through our tears
That fill our eyes.

 ©2006 Shannon Seckman

Auntie Lorraine
Every friday we get 20 words to spell, i've been doing really well, got the results today, i got 98 out of 100, i'm really pleased,hope you are too. I'm trying really hard to work well for Mummy, Gran & Papa to make them happy. 

Mummy told me that if i wanted to have an inspiration it should be you and i agree!!!

Do they have chocolate buttons & Irn Bru where you are??? Mummy said that she took your feeding tube out before you went away coz you wouldnt need it, i hope you warn everyone about your burps after you have a drink of Irn Bru he he
Love you loads
Chloe
XXX

Bereaved Parents Wish List


 I wish my child hadn't died. I wish  I had her/him back.              

                     Y

I wish you wouldn't be afraid to speak my child's name. My child
lived and was very important to me. I need to hear that she was
important to you also.

                  Y

If I cry and get emotional when you talk about my child, I wish you
knew that it isn't because you have hurt me. My child's death is the
cause of my tears. You have talked about my child and you have
allowed me to share my grief. I thank you for both.

                  Y

Being a bereaved parent is not contagious, so I wish you wouldn't
shy away from me. I need you now more than ever.

                  Y

I need diversions, so I do want to hear about you, but I also want
you to hear about me. I might be sad and I might cry, but I wish you
would let me talk about my child; my favorite topic of the day.

                  Y

I know that you think of and pray for me often. I also know that my
child's death pains you too. I wish you would let me know these
things through a phone call, a card or note, or a real big hug.

                  Y

I wish you wouldn't expect my grief to be over. These first years
are traumatic for me, but I wish you could understand that my grief
will never be over. I will suffer the death of my child until the day
I die.

                  Y

I am working hard in my recovery, but I wish you could understand
that I will never fully recover. I will always miss my child and I
will always grieve that she is gone.

                  Y

I wish you wouldn't expect me "not to think about it" or "be
happy". Neither will happen for a very long time, so don't frustrate
yourself. 
                  Y

I don't want to have a "Pity party", but I do wish you would let me
grieve. I must hurt before I can heal.

                  Y

I wish you understood how my life has shattered. I know it is
miserable for you to be around me when I'm feeling miserable. Please
be as patient with me as I am with you.

                  Y

When I say, "I'm doing okay", I wish you could understand that I
don't "feel" okay and that I struggle daily.

                  Y

I wish you knew that all of the grief reactions I'm having are very
normal. Depression, anger, hopelessness and overwhelming sadness are all to be expected. So please excuse me when I'm quiet and withdrawn or irritable and cranky.

                  Y

Your advice to "take it one day at a time" is excellent advice.
However, a day is too much and too fast for me right now. I wish you
could understand that I'm doing good to handle an hour at a time.

                  Y

Please excuse me if I seem rude, certainly not my intent. Sometimes
the world around me goes too fast and I need to get off. When I walk
away, I wish you would let me find a quiet place to spend time alone.
I wish you understood that grief changes people. When my child died,
a big part of me died with her. I am not the same person I was
before my child died and I will never be that person again.        
                  Y
I wish very much that you could understand ~ understand my loss and
my grief.
But....
I pray daily that you will never understand.

 

Our relationship was special
We valued it with pride,
But i never knew how Special
Till the day you died.

I look back on the good times
That you and i have known,
But all the fun's gone out of it
Doing it all alone.

The photographs i look at
Time and time again,
For a moment you're there with me
And then - that awful pain.

I'll always have the memories
They'll go on and on,
But my life will never be the same
Now that you are gone.

You were the best part of me,
Love & hugs & kisses,
Jenni
XXX

I will always miss you like mad! Mummy, Granny & Papa miss you like mad too. I felt like saying this for all the family, we will never be the same again,